Ah, l’amore! Romantic gestures may seem like outdated and meaningless behaviour in this sceptical age. Or, perhaps, romance is simply a fiction created for the readers of silly novels and films which only serve to give us all unrealistic exceptions. I used to think so myself, but as I’ve got older I’ve found myself going from a sceptic to a romantic. Romance may be considered uncool but it is vital and it is necessary.
Cosy dinners for two. Poetry. Love letters. Flowers. Mini-breaks away. Considered gifts and thoughtful gestures. Being generous with your time and affection. If you know your lover well, you should be able to do romantic things for them without making them feel uncomfortable or embarrassed. I don’t know a single person who doesn’t enjoy it when their partner does beautiful things for them.
But it’s more than that. These actions don’t just make your partner fall in love with you. You are flexing your own love like a muscle. You are learning to love your partner more deeply with each romantic action. Love is active. Love is a verb. We have more control over it than we realise. If we want to stay in love with our partners and have a successful relationship we must be romantic towards them.
Your own romantic acts make you fall in love with your partner too.
No woman dreams of being just a roommate he shags. No man dreams of being a meal ticket. The creation of love is important and love is made with romance. In a relationship, romance is the responsibility of both partners. If your partner is not romantic towards you, then I have some bad news. They are not interested or invested in the relationship or they simply don’t mind if the love fades away.
But fear not! You can make your love everlasting.
First: you find someone. Someone who creates love with you. Someone who graciously accepts the romance you give them. Someone who takes the love you’ve given them and builds on it giving it back to you endued with more love. Someone who enjoys seeing the look on your face as you receive their romantic gestures. Someone who gives you love for love’s sake.
Once you’ve found the right lover, then you make love to them and with them every single day you are together.
So fall in love, my Darlings! Fall in love and stay that way